D/s Relationships

With respect to my Owner,

Over the last few days my Owner and I have been developing our D/s relationship and as part of that we have been building rules and such that will form a major part of our future life together.
Alongside this I got thinking about what a D/s Relationship is and how I would explain it to another so that they could walk the same path we are. So stripping it to the basics this is what I came up with:

My 10 rules for a D/S Relationship

1. Open - A Dom is considered to be the teacher and the protector in a D/s relationship and therefore your sub will look to you to learn all they can from you. However equally you to must keep an open mind, there is much that even an experienced Dom can learn from another Dom if you have the chance and above all learn from your own sub, learn what they need and build upon it. As a sub learn from your Dom and from other sources around you, learning is a beautiful thing that can open your eyes to new and exciting things.  

2. Sensitive - It's a fine line being a Dom who must enforce rules and yet be sensitive to the needs of your sub and this takes time and patience. Allow your sub to trust you, never break or threaten to break that trust. As a sub you need to trust your Dom completely, let them guide you and don;t forget that your Dom is human they will make mistakes so when mistakes happen acknowledge them appropriately and move on gracefully.

3. Humble - Don't either of you sing your own praises no-one needs to hear that instead show each other and those around you how good you are at your own role, and with each other, within your D/s relationship and demonstrate it to each other on all levels all the time. 

4. Honest - A Dom can't be great in every area of a D/s Relationship or of BDSM so be honest with your sub and learn together. Only take you and your sub to levels you are completely comfy with. Equally all subs should share their needs and fantasies your Dom expects it, and if something new scares you or your just not comfy with it tell your Dom, they can't mind read and will respect you for it.

5. Patient - D/s Relationships don't happen overnight. They take much practice and require work from both sides. Both halves of the D/s Relationship have different qualities that balanced and blended perfectly over time soon become one, where one ends and one begins becomes blurred as you join together. Sometimes things will go wrong but together you can work through that.

6. Realistic - Both of you need to know what is fantasy and what is reality. Never promise or agree to something that you can not deliver. False expectations leads to hurt and unhappiness 

7. Healthy - BDSM requires you both to be in tip top condition for both physical and emotional health. Never enter into a session below par this will lead to misunderstandings happiness and the possibility of being hurt. Make sure you have a 'Safeword' so that both of you know when to stop of either one of you can not deal with what is happening or if signals have been misread.

8. Genuine - Doms, a submissive looks for some-one who can take over their mind body and soul so make them fall in love with you, expect them to give themselves to you totally. Hold this submission close and respect it.  Stick to rules and limitations, follow them up and expect obedience and punish when you need to. Subs, Let your Dom take over you completely, give in totally, surrender and submit with all your being, your very nature requires you to be controlled, directed and owned. Respect your Dom and expect punishment which you should accept gracefully. Just remember that you Dom has many thing to be concerned with so be loyal and dependable. 

9. Communicate - Communication is the basis of a trusting relationship, set aside times or ways when you can both have open discussion without fear or repercussions. This could include a diary for the sub to write in daily where they can write anything they like and the Dom can read this and not punish the sub for their thoughts but equally the Dom can write a reply to this entry for the sub so that the sub may understand their point of view so that in future there will be no misunderstandings

10. Fun - Enjoy each other and the unique bond you have as you create and share intense feelings and pleasures. The bond of a D/s relationship and the commitment that you both put into can be stronger and mean more that the vows of marriage. Treat it and each other with respect.

signed his submissive owned